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TIFU by staying silent while my wife’s doctor chose pride over science, almost costing our baby.

TIFU by letting my wife’s doctor’s ego override basic science, and it almost cost us everything

My wife is pregnant. I’m the kind of man who reads the fine print, so I memorized the WHO guidelines about iron, folic acid, calcium, and vitamin D. The four damn essentials.

WHO says it plain: if ferritin drops below 60, the daily 27 mg isn’t enough.

By late June, my wife’s ferritin was 13.8. I bought bisglycinate iron, and she took it regularly and patiently. At the first visit, she asked her gynecologist if she needed more. The doctor flared up:

“Do you think I don’t see these numbers? Do you think I would ever risk you or your baby?”

My wife tried to calm her. “No, doctor. I just want to be sure.”

The doctor looked her dead in the eye and said, “Then take nothing but your multivitamin. No iron. No calcium.”

And this is where I failed. I knew it was wrong. I knew pride was running the show—or maybe the problem was baked into the country’s protocols. But my wife wanted to trust the specialist. I stayed quiet. I thought: She’s the doctor. That silence was my mistake.

Fast forward. Today I downloaded the latest blood test: ferritin below 6. Critical. Miscarriage on the table. We rushed to the Medical Guard on this bloody Sunday. Another doctor saw the numbers and said what the first one should have said: urgent treatment. Now my wife swallows more than 100 mg of iron a day, fights nausea, and still may need IV iron in the hospital.

This is what I learnt:

  1. Sometimes doctors let pride bury the science.

  2. Sometimes, health protocols in some countries are written against the WHO guidelines and read like they were drafted by a committee of clowns.

I wasn’t the advocate my wife and baby needed. I stayed silent when I should’ve fought. I’ll carry that weight every time I see my child’s eyes—

…but I’ll never stay silent again.

Moral of the story: Trust science, not the titles on the door.

TL;DR: Wife’s ferritin dropped from 13.8 to <6 after her doctor refused extra iron. I stayed silent, almost cost us our baby. Learned the hard way: trust science, not the titles on the door.

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