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TIFU by flirting back with an incel at work

I (25f) work at a grocery store on the weekends. I work in the coffee bar on the side of the store, and right infront of my dept is the online orders dept. There is this guy (33M) who I cannot say is ugly. He is kinda cute, tall, nice-ish hair. I, in my 9 years of working, sometimes even two or three jobs at the same time, have never involved myself with a coworker. I always told myself i don't shit where I eat, but this time I have no idea why i even reciprocated. I went on a LOA for a month, and within that month, I was more active in social media, finally able to look at my phone more than just between breaks and before bed. This coworker ended up replying to one of my stories on IG in a flirty tone. I genuenly thought "what lf" for just a fun time, NOT anything else. I admit i am in the wrong for reciprocating, and turning on the boiler if i'm not gonna take a shower. But i reciprocated. We ended up talking all night, and it was fun until it turned a bit sexual. We exchanged ONE lewd picture, and i went to bed. We didn't make plans, nothing. All night i was like "what am i going to do when i go back to work". The day after that night talk, he started testing me "im so excited to make you uncomfortable at work" or things like "i'm gonna have to pin you in the elevator" or "follow me to the cooler" and getting SO BAD. I told him multiple times i don't do anything of that nature at work, but he wouldn't stop it. He started saying he was going to take me for dinner and he did not regret a thing about "our night". I stopped replying to his messages.

My first day back from my LOA was this past monday. I knew he was going to be there, and I was DREADING. I told him once again before work that I DONT DO SEXUAL STUFF AT WORK and he just replied with "oh, she has class" and i never replied. Well, all my shift was hell. He was trying to make me uncomfortable staring at me with a "smirk", passing by next to me and whisper sexual stuff while walking, come up to me to "measure hands", and in general trying to get my attention, he had texted me (which i didn't reply) the night before saying he was so excited to "make my day a struggle". I left, sat in my car after clocking out and just told myself how bad this is. Never in any conversation i agreed to sexual inuendos at work, sexual talk or even making it apparent that we were going to do anything at work. I told him i am just "a fun time, cause i don't date" yet he alluded to taking me out on dates and assummed he already knew i was "head over heels" for him, and that i was "resisting my natural urges" all along.

I just need to get this regret out of my chest, and sit with my actions. It will pass, and I have not responded to him since i told him to stop on monday. I hope he gets the point that he us weird and i regret everything. He had told me he has not been with anyone in YEARS, and he has been telling me (before this event) that he was still in love with his ex who broke up with him in 2018. I didn't see the signs. Maybe it's time to move jobs.

TL;DR: I flirted back with a coworker while on my LOA after he replied to my IG story. He is 8 years older than me. I came back to work and he was inappropriate with me at work after I explicitly said not to do anything of that nature at work. I regret everything.

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