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TIFU by accidentally telling a girl about her break up before she knew about it

Edit: yes it’s silly early 20’s drama. I know it’s low stakes nonsense. I also however care deeply about one of the people involved here

TL:DR: I told a girl I barely know that I was sorry to hear about her breakup, she didn’t even know he was planning to stop seeing her

For context: here is everyone involved in the story:
Me
Bethany (my friend)
Shaun (Bethany’s friend)
Carla (a girl Shaun has been dating)

I’m friends with all 3 people involved in this story to some extent, but Bethany and I hang out quite frequently and I don’t really know Shaun and Carla that well, but they both frequent some regular events that Bethany and I go to. Long story short, the two got to chatting and eventually started going on dates, which I thought was great.

Earlier this week, while catching up with Bethany, I asked her how Shaun and Carla were doing and I got told that “oh they are no longer together, they realized it was mutually platonic”. Which is a shame, I thought. Didn’t really think much more of it after that.

Today, Carla was at an event that neither Bethany nor Shaun were at for once, which is very rare. I spoke to her at one point and I very quickly said, without thinking “oh I’m sorry to hear you two haven’t worked out”, or something along those lines, I don’t remember the exact sentence I said or how I phrased it. To which Carla responded with confusion. I immediately put two and two together and figure out that Shaun has no intention of seeing Carla anymore, but Carla has been ghosted and ignored.

Carla presses me for details and I kinda don’t want to tell her the truth because it would implicate Bethany for telling me, and Bethany is a very important friend to me. So I panic and I say “well, I don’t know for sure what happened. It was people gossiping and spreading rumours, because you didn’t show up with him to this event that you normally do together so people put two and two together”, basically making it sound like I didn’t know for sure what was happening and so I could also make sure Bethany isn’t directly implicated. I ended up giving her the advice to just wait and hear from him (my understanding from both of them is they aren’t seriously dating and it was never relationship stage/talk every day but just the odd date) and get confirmation for sure, just in case I’m wrong. I played dumb in order to make sure Bethany didn’t have to deal with me having a big gob.

I don’t really care what happens to Shaun too much to be honest, I get along with him well enough but we are not super close, outside of occasional Instagram messages we basically only socialize at these events. He shouldn’t have ghosted her and should have just told her “I’m not interested in you, sorry”. So I’m not really too fussed about that. What I do care about is my friendship with Bethany, who told me this. I assumed based on what she told me that it was maybe public knowledge, and I lied afterwards about what I was told so that she wasn’t directly implicated, as, from my point of view, she’s done nothing wrong as all she’s done is tell me something that’s happened to a mutual friend and shouldn’t be punished because Shaun is a coward.

What I think will possibly happen is:

Carla will ask Shaun what’s going on
Shaun will figure out that Bethany has told either me or her and tell her not to tell people things
Bethany will be annoyed at me for telling Carla

I fucked up here but my question is: is it for the greater good that Carla knows this, will my friendship with Bethany be alright and did I manage to unfuck myself enough with my cover story of “oh we just weren’t sure bc you didn’t show up”

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