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TIFU by recommending a friend seek therapy

The original recommendation occurred a couple years ago, but the fallout came today. I've had a friend named "K" for about 10 years now. We were always pretty close, and she saw me through some tough times with women and careers and other such drama. She was close with my folks, and I always enjoyed our time together.

She rarely showed vulnerability - she always seemed pretty tough, even though her life was challenging, same as mine. However, one time she was feeling pretty down and came to me with her troubles - but they were a DOOZY. She hated her life, thought she'd never find love, was convinced she was going to be unhappy forever, and had pretty much given up. She was suicidal in every way but threatening the deed. I was ill-equipped, and all my comfort and recommendations to her were dismissed. So, like a good friend and millennial, I recommended she seek out a therapist to help her talk through things. She absolutely flipped out on me. We didn't speak for months, but one day she showed up like nothing happened and I thought that was the end of it.

Was I wrong! A year ago she starts seeing a guy (yay!) who is a complete narcissist (boo) and he drives a significant wedge between the two of us. He ends up owing me a bunch of rent money, and slowly painfully pays it back over about 10 months. During that time, I didn't attempt to continue my friendship with K, but he finally settled up a few weeks back, and so I sent her a message pretty much saying "hey, I miss our friendship, I don't like the boyfriend but if he's willing to put in the effort then maybe we can all be friends." She responds saying that I'm a bad friend, specifically citing the therapy recommendation from years prior. Says she doesn't want me in their life anymore. So I told her some nasty things I'd heard about the boyfriend, and doubled down on her recommendation to seek therapy.

TL;DR: A few years back, I recommended a good friend seek therapy. Today, she ended our 10 year friendship over it.

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