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TIFU by saying I might want a prenup to my fiancé

We had been engaged 4 months and things were going great. Literally the best relationship I’ve ever had. Ironically just this morning we were talking about how strong we were and don’t have any issues like other couples seem to have.

I had mentioned we should talk about future financial planning, she has said the other times I brought this up that she wants she would rather wait until we are actually married. Then she asked what’s the difference if we wait until then? I said about what happens if it doesn’t work out? Then she asked if so I meant a prenup and I hesitantly well I would like to keep my house. Over the next 5 minutes she went from “I’m fine” to “I can’t marry you” and now I have a month to move out (my place is rented out on the other side of the country, we live in her place where I contribute to the mortgage).

For perspective, we have roughly the same assets (a house and car each), and I made a bit more than her and have more savings.

Her perspective is it’s horrible of me to ask this of her, it shows I don’t trust her, I don’t really love her, I’m selfishly that kind of person who only cares about protecting my stuff, so it’s not like a real family. And I didn’t consider how it would affect her to ask this of her. She feels extremely insulted and the fact that I might consider this is a big offense to her.

I feel horrible, I didn’t realize it was going to be interpreted like this and it doesn’t mean any of those things. I had been divorced before and didn’t have a prenup, and my ex wife didn’t take anything she didn’t earn. That make things even worse.

I’m a crazy planner and when reading about planning for the future, it was mentioned about also having a plan for if things don’t work out. So I rolled those up into my plans. I wasn’t dead set or strongly stating I have to have one. From the research I did, it seemed just like something you do if you have assets before marriage.

And I said as much after this altercation that I don’t need one forget I said it. But it’s too late now, I have revealed what kind of person I am. I can’t take it back.

So I have a month to move out. I’m oscillating between numbness and having a full on panic attack. I love this girl more than anything. I’d take a bullet for her. I feel like my life is over. Our dog the only thing keeping me calm now. Well technically her dog so I’ll lose that too.

TL;DR, I mentioned about a possibility of a prenup to my fiancé of 4 months. She was extremely hurt and offended. Call off marriage and is giving me a month to move out.

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