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TIFU: By listening in to a conversation my gf was having that I definitely shouldn't have heard

Disclaimer: Not putting ages or the correct initials for the people involved because I'm not sure if the friend has reddit or not. We're all college aged, lets just keep it at that.

A little back story

So I (FtM) and my girlfriend we'll call T, have been together for close to 3 years now. I mention that I'm trans because it's relevant to the story. Since starting HRT I've experienced low libido, and very rarely am I ever actually turned on anymore. We've talked about it several times, she says it's okay and that she can do nothing but accept it and support me. A couple months ago we go on a trip to see my family (we're across the country from them), and it's tense at first but we managed to get back into a rhythm and find our flow again. We had more sex during that time than we had had in months and even experimented a little bit. We found new things to try and enjoyed them all! Well, we fly back and I essentially just can't get it up anymore. We also recently moved in with each other and 2 roommates. We each have our own room as thats how the lease is set up.

Today

Tonight I was getting read for bed when I heard her hush talking on the phone in her room. Now, our walls are very thin and I could kind of hear what she was saying so I put my ear up to the wall and this is where I fucked up. She was talking to our mutual friend about how she just wants to fuck a man. I'm realizing lately that because I don't actually have a penis, it's hard for me to even want sex so this really stung. Our mutual friend (M) is mostly T's friend but we get along great still. Anyway, M is talking T through her options and mentions breaking up. This is where I found out she's been thinking about it for the last 2 months and is going to be having a conversation with me tomorrow night after we're both done with our classes. The last bit I couldn't quite hear, but from what I could this is what I understood: M was saying that if I reacted one way then go with one option and if I react another way then just break up with me. I get that not having sex is difficult for a lot of people and it's a necessary part of their relationships, but fuck man. I feel so defeated.

TL;DR: Girlfriend wants to fuck a man, and I can't provide it because I have low libido and am very dysphoric. She's thinking about breaking off a 3 year relationship because of it.

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