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TIFU by opening my marriage [UPDATE]

Hello all, thank you for all the responses. Everyone has really helped me open my eyes of how terrible not only my husband and my sister’s situation is but also mine and my husbands. I never thought of my husband as a pervert but you guys have really helped me see.

It is true, we met when I was 15 me and him got together with my parent’s approval. Growing up my parents severely disliked me, they had me at 18 unplanned and I ruined their chances of a successful future together. I think they wanted to just get me off their hands even if it meant approving a marriage with a much older man. And honestly I wanted away with my parents too, so I convinced myself it was cool to have an older boyfriend and sucked it up the whole relationship.

Now for the update, I decided to speak to my sister despite mine and hers differences.

When I asked her what she was thinking she didn’t know what I was on about, and that was when she shown me a bunch of one sided texts from my husband.

She told me that he made an advance on her and she rejected him (thank god) which lead to the question why was he so happy and why did he lie?

I told my sister to block him before arranging a chat with him.

I chose to meet up in a public park, I don’t feel safe alone with him anymore. When we met up I flat out asked him why he lied. He denied it for some time before giving in after I told him my sister told me everything.

He said because me and my sister weren’t close he wouldn’t have thought I would go to her, and that he lied to test the water.

He had his eye on her for some time and he wanted to see how I would react. After this there was a whole lot of him telling me I was overreacting.

I wrapped up the conversation and told him I was seeking a divorce.

I knew I was young when we got married, it never hit me how much of a sick pervert my husband is.

I’m on a waitlist for therapy now and I hopefully can start my healing journey.

I will keep you updated if anything major happens.

Thank you all for opening my eyes

TL;DR my husband lied about sleeping with my sister to see if I would be okay with it, I’m seeking divorce and therapy

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