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TIFU (16m) by ending up being friends with benefits with my ex (16f)

So I know you may be thinking that we're only 16 and just going through an awkward time and that may possibly be it. But we are both relatively grown up already.

Some backstory is, we fell in love in high school around age 14 and also lost our virginity at 14 around 8 months later. We were dating for about 13 months total then broke up. After that, she rang me up around half a year later (we're 15 at this point) and we were in some sort of weird relationship for another 2 months and just finally eneded everything.

Anyway, after we had finished school, I decided to text her (a little because I was lonely and drunk) last month as I was curious to how she was doing and how life has been (its odd I know). From there we started talking a lot more and she's changed a lot and we are a lot more mature in our thinking, we are definitely friends as we face time or talk till early hours in the morning and sometimes we'll meet and tak our dogs on a walk. (nothing romantic or sexual just friendly talks)

Well yesterday we met up as she was dog sitting her dad's dog and went back to his place, the whole time we were just watching youtube and talking but there was definitely some tension there, we slowly got more touchy. She'd start by laying on my shoulder then asking me to move my arm around her. Then she said she was tired and wanted to lie down in her room and asked if I wanted to come so I said sure. From there we eneded up having sex.

The problem is, I enjoyed it and she did too but I did not feel any love nor horniness and as a result didn't finish (I also decided not to as I didn't have a condom on). I made sure she finished many times though but said that if there is a next time that I will bring condoms (this was my excuse for not finishing and not making her feel bad). I care for her and enjoy her presence but I don't know if I can see her in a way that makes me attracted to her even if it's just for sex.

What should I do?

TL;DR: I contacted my ex after a year or so and ended up making friends then after about a month ended up having sex and I did not feel anything towards her.

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