TIFUpdate by hooking up with a guy who has a lost and found box

🔗 Here is the link to the original post 🔗 https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/s/yQKgTBVNuI

Last night after writing the post and sending the guy a really mean text (as many pointed out, and I agree) I told him sorry and that I left my sunglasses at his place. Hours went by before I got his reply:

• I understand they’re important to you but if you don’t come and collect them and another woman wants them, it is what it is. -They’re in the box now so if you want them I’ll put them outside my door tomorrow. I’m working late. I won’t mail them to you it’s too much work. Next time don’t forget your things.

I told him that it’s a crime (in sweden) to give away another persons belongings and as a response I got a bunch of messages that basically came out to: If another woman takes them you can’t get mad at me bc you play by my rules.

After some time I said ok. And he sends me a “good luck” text telling me he hopes I find someone and that he’s really glad i came over even though the sex wasn’t great and that we people have different sex styles.

I replied:

• thank you very much, I wish you good luck to you too. I didn't mean to be so rude in my previous messages , I was just a little annoyed at the moment because the whole situation got pretty scary when it didn't feel like I had any say to the things you were doing (and that I found a condom still in me when I sat on the subway). But I'll come and pick up my sunglasses tomorrow around 5:))

last thing I heard from him was this:

• I understand that control in bed is important to you, I understood that it was a dealbreaker when I took the more dominant role, I wanted to take it more slowly and I felt that everything was going too fast for my taste, it's nothing wrong with you, it's just that we had two completely different styles when it came to intercourse and how we wanted it, I'll definitely be more responsive in the future. I appreciate you telling me how you felt and I just want you to know that it wasn't my intention to make you feel like you had no say, I'll be leaving the glasses outside my door at 5 tomorrow!

I don’t really think he picked up on the facts I was super uncomfortable and scared when he started panking/choking me without telling me even after I said no.

Anyway, me and a male friend went over there at 5:10 PM today and my friend picked up the glasses outside of his door.

Was the whole ordeal worth it? No. Am I happy I have my glasses? Yes. Did I make stupid choices? Definitely.

TL;DR: I went back with a friend after a whole lot of back an forth and retrieved my sunnies from the hookup guy