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TIFU by being inconsiderate of my (26F) partner’s (24M) time.

I (26F) was not considerate of my partner's (24M) time and spilled all my emotions even though I promised not to. I was having a rough day and came to grab my computer from his apartment. He brought it out to me— a clear indication I now realize that he was busy and did not have time for chatting. He knew I was upset and of course gave me a hug but then went to go inside. I asked if I could come in for a glass of water to which he responded yes. I came in, filled my water and immediately started sobbing. He hugged me and comforted me but after about ten minutes said he had a deadline that day and needed to work. I said you’re right but just couldn’t keep it together and ended up taking up a whole hour of his time in his apartment. I truly value his time and he NEVER communicates to me that he needs space unless it’s mandatory so I really appreciate him for doing this. But I feel like a horrible girlfriend because I was crying so hard and ignored him when he politely asked for space after hugging me and doing breathing exercises with me. How can I be more mindful of his time and manage my emotions better so I don’t spill over? Do you guys have any techniques for both parties in this situation? I truly just want to be a considerate girlfriend and want to find an outlet for the few times that my partner cannot meet my emotional needs.

Thank you!

TLDR: I didn’t manage my emotions even when my partner asked for space due to a work deadline.

Edit: To clarify I am getting professional help and I am on medication for GAD and MDD. All in all I was there an hour so I probably only cried around 15 minutes after explaining the situation and then apologized profusely after which definitely took some time. Apologies for misrepresenting the time aspect. I edit the post to reflect that.

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