TIFU by joking about my friend’s deadbeat dad without knowing his dad literally just died

This was last weekend and I still feel like absolute trash

We were hanging out at my buddy’s place for his birthday. Just a regular chill night with drinks pizza and games. One of our old high school friends came by too, I’ll call him Jake. Hadn’t seen him in a while but it was good to catch up

So back in high school Jake’s dad was kinda a running joke. Dude was always bailing on stuff and Jake himself used to clown on him more than any of us. Not a bad guy just super unreliable

Anyway we’re sitting around roasting each other like we always do and I go “at least my dad showed up to graduation… unlike Jake’s” thinking it was just a dumb throwback joke

And the whole room just goes quiet

Jake looks down and goes “yeah he passed away last week”

I wanted to disappear. I felt my whole body shut down. I started apologizing immediately and he said it was fine but you could tell it hit him. He dipped early and the mood never really came back after that

Texted him the next day and he said it was okay but I still feel like an asshole. I didn’t know. If I did I never would’ve said it

Still feel sick about it honestly

TL;DR made a joke about my friend’s unreliable dad and turns out his dad had just died. ruined the vibe and probably the whole night