Skip to main content

TIFU by lashing out at my work buddy

I recently joined a new workplace and have a crush on a girl in my team. We’re trying to be friends. I share a desk with my desk buddy, who is good friends with my crush. There’s also another girl who’s friend to my crush. I’m not sure, but I think my crush might be seeing someone outside work or may have a crush on my desk buddy.

The three often hang out together during coffee and lunch breaks. I’ve been trying hard to join them, and today I asked my crush and the other girl to join me for lunch, but they politely declined. So, I ate with other colleagues. While eating, I noticed the trio at another table and felt jealous. I wanted to talk to my desk buddy about it but didn’t.

Later, my desk buddy tried to take a funny photo of me, and I lashed out, telling him he didn’t have my permission. I’m uncomfortable with random photos, especially with concerns about privacy and AI misuse. My crush noticed and didn’t talk to me for the rest of the day.

After work, I apologized to my desk buddy and asked if we could talk. He said he didn’t understand why I was upset and was hurt by my reaction. I admitted I could have been more polite.

I messed up by lashing out and upsetting both my crush and desk buddy. Things feel awkward and beyond repair right now, and I don’t want to talk to anyone at work. I just want some sense and strength to handle this.

TL;DR: I have a crush on a coworker who hangs out with my desk buddy and another girl. I tried joining them for lunch but got turned down, which made me jealous. Later, I got upset when my desk buddy took a photo of me without asking, and I lashed out. This upset both of them, and now things are awkward at work. I’m struggling to handle it and want to make things right.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

TIFU - Don’t do what I did

On Sunday morning Aug. 24th, I awoke to discover a large blind spot in my right eye, which turned out to be what is called wet age-related macular degeneration (AMD). It has resulted in a very significant, permanent loss of vision in that eye. Although I maintain good peripheral vision, whatever I focus on at best is very blurry, and mostly disappears. I can barely make out the large E at the top of the eye chart. If this happens to my left eye I’ll be unable to read or drive. It turns out that I missed the opportunity that I had to prevent this from becoming a serious problem because I failed to report what appeared to be minor changes in my vision. In the weeks prior to August I had noticed that what I knew to be straight lines appeared to my right eye to have a little waviness. I also noticed that the color of my front lawn, which I could see through the window from my recliner,  was subdued, looked almost gray, in my right eye. So I scheduled an eye exam, which revealed the p...

TIFU by getting suspended for 2 days by my front office in school.

I (13M) am an African American student at Jeannette junior high who had got suspended for 2 days here. I was in math class minding my business until my teacher had told me to go to the main office, which posed no problem to me. As i went down there, the people of the front office had stopped me and made me get a new ID (yes, we have id's.) so i had asked them if i could maybe do a different alternative and call my mother to let her bring the Id here, even then, the Id isn't that important. So, although i was talking to them in a calm manner and not showing any signs of rebellion, they had threatened to call the police on me without thinking twice before calling my parents. This is where i started getting angry, and even then now the black peers agree that could have been a racially motivated action. They then told me to sit in the office conference room because of that, leading into more anger. They had then called my mother who had came over to the school didn't even let ...

TIFU by putting my already skinny jeans in the dryer on high heat.

TL;DR: Was stupid and didn't realize I put my clothes on extra high heat in the dryer. Had to rock skintight skinny jeans all day with tighty whities (only clean pair I had since I procrastinate doing laundry like crazy). I guess the constant wedgies and squishing are punishment for my stupidity. Honestly don’t know who else to blame but myself for this. I’m a scatterbrained guy so I literally put the highest setting on a load with most of my clothes, and my skinny jeans that I was planning to wear today. You can probably already see where this is going, but somehow I didn’t. For context, these jeans were already pushing the limits of what could reasonably be called wearable. They fit, technically, but only in the sense that I could get them on with enough determination and a bit of strategic breathing. Sitting down in them was more of a commitment than a casual action. Still, they looked good, and I had convinced myself that discomfort was just part of the aesthetic. So this m...