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TIFU by posting in a looks maxxing subreddit

This happened yesterday. To preface this, I struggle with body dysmorphia which gives me some pretty bad self esteem issues. Lately my self esteem has been very low and I’ve really struggled to feel attractive for about a year or so now due to gaining weight from antidepressants. I’m told that I’m conventionally attractive by people, but I really struggle to see it myself.

I came across a couple looks maxxing subreddits where I saw posts of people asking for advice on how to look better. I had only ever heard of these in passing so I wasn’t very informed of what goes on there. The few posts that I clicked on had some genuine advice from people and everyone seemed to be acting decent, so I decided to make a post myself asking for advice. I even found a smaller sub for people that wear alternative styles and decided to post there since I’m into goth style and have a lot of tattoos and piercings. I mainly asked for weight loss tips and piercing suggestions. I was mostly just expecting things like makeup tips, change in hair style, etc. based off what I saw.

I didn’t check my phone for a couple hours and came back to a shitshow. I guess my post really blew up and I had 80+ comments. Some people were nice, only about 5 gave actual advice, the rest were absolutely horrendous. I had people calling me repulsive, was told that I’m not dateable, and had multiple comments calling me fat and telling me to lose weight even though I didn’t even post a picture with my body in it. It was basically insult after insult. I had people rating me even though I didn’t ask and had someone even directly message me to call me a “4 at best with makeup”. I also had a good couple people say I was looking for attention which I guess I should take as a compliment?

I ended up taking all of my piercings out and crying my eyes out over my appearance. I eventually spilled the beans to my boyfriend after he asked me what was wrong and he asked why I would even post in a sub like that. Apparently he knew a lot more about them than me and knew how toxic they could get. I eventually calmed down and put my piercings back in after he convinced me that I shouldn’t listen to strangers on the internet insulting me from anonymous pages.

I ended up deleting the post. I now have a bruised ego and know not to post my face on Reddit.

TLDR; decided to post myself on a looks maxxing sub for appearance advice because I struggle with my self esteem. My post blew up and I got absolutely roasted and insulted by a lot of people. I ended up deleting the post and now have a severely bruised ego

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