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TIFUpdate apologized to the friend i ghosted. Seems like she don't hate me but the friendship is still done.

You can read the original post here, but the short story is a friend of mine who i liked when through a DV situation with her father, a year later I asked if she wanted to be in a relationship, she didn't seem interested so I gave her space but froze and didn't contact her again for two years.

https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/s/DjGQlutZC3

Folks on that post said that the friendship is toast and I agreed, but i still wanted to apologize to her not for my own peace but because she deserves it. I was gonna do it last night but saw that it was her birthday (I'd marked it in my calendar ages ago), so I decided to start by wishing her a happy birthday and that all was well. To my complete shock she actually responded and said thank you, you've always been so sweet to me. We even caught up a little bit. She was celebrating with her family that night so I figured I'd wait another day to send the apology since it wouldn't be a good idea to drop that when she's trying to be present with her folks.

So this morning I was going to send it and she actually texted me first, again to my total shock. I had told her last night that my folks were visiting town because they couldn't make it out for christmas and she asked how that went. We talked about that for a bit, then when there was a lull in the coversation i sent my apology, laying out that it was wrong of me to abandon her and that while it wasn't my intention to bail when she respectfully turned me down, I understand how it came off that way and she deserved better communication from me and a better friend in general. Didn't write an essay, just owned up to it and wished her well. Haven't heard back and don't expect to, but at least it appeads like she don't completely hate my guts.

The episode reinforced for me that I just ain't good at friendships, never mind snything romantic which is completely off the table. I've never been a people person and this was yet another lesson in that, so I'm just done with friendships and romance in general. Always been a loner so I plan to lean into that for the long haul. At least I have a good career that I love and i keep my health straight. no disability or chronic illness. There's a lot I can be grateful for even if I can't share it with other people.

TL;DR apologized to the friend i wronged. She seems to be okay with it so at least Working on becoming comfortable being on y own.

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