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TIFU by referring my toxic ex to my company and now I have to see him every day

This didn’t happen today, but the consequences are very much happening right now.

A few months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend. It wasn’t pretty. There was gaslighting, constant needling, drinking.. caused me a lot of emotional exhaustion. When it ended I felt like I had survived something.

Shortly after the breakup, he lost his job. He reached out saying he was struggling, saying that the breakup was hard on him and that he got fired. He asked if I could refer him to my company. I love my job, have an understanding boss, good pay and I have a solid reputation here. I didn’t think too hard, I just didn’t want to feel guilty, so I referred him.

He got hired. And we have the SAME boss. And now he’s trying to move into my team.

I now see him almost every day. Every meeting is a reminder of the relationship I worked so hard to get out of. I can’t even look him in the eye without remembering all the manipulation, stress. Meanwhile, he seems completely comfortable maybe even enjoying the situation.

The extra anxiety? No one at work knows we dated. I’m terrified he’ll casually bring it up to coworkers — especially my male colleagues like it’s some fun trivia. I referred him out of guilt. Now I’m stuck sharing my safe space with the person who made me need one in the first place.

So yeah.

tl;dr TIFU by trying to be the bigger person and accidentally hiring my own villain.

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