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TIFU by telling my aunt she has changed physically

So, in the middle of a conversation that had a lot of chatting and laughing in it, we were all bringing up memories from the past etc and decided to watch my parent's wedding (from the 90s), when my aunt was barely 40 and so beautiful.

Idk how it just slipped out of my mouth and I told her: "btw, you changed a lot! I wouldn't have imagined it was you". In the same moment I don't remember wether it was before or after, I told another aunt that she didn't change much over the years. (Due to life responsabilities etc, the 1st one aged way faster than her peers)

She didn't get angry or anything, she acknowledged it telling me that another woman who knew her stopped her in the street to ask her how her beautiful sister who was living in ... was doing (she was meaning the same person, she just didn't recognize her) and that she replied "oh, she's fine" without telling the woman that it was actually her.

What breaks my heart the most is that at the end of the family gathering(before my awful mistake), she was sitting by my side and telling me how gorgeous I was when we were looking at recent pics of mine.

I feel evil and rude and I wish I could stop thinking out loud at times. I control it for progressively longer periods of time and then it happens again. :( what can I do about it? I fear that apologizing might be too risky and remind her of that moment, and that staying silent might affect our relationship, she cherishes me and I don't want to lose our precious bond.

TL;DR: At a family gathering, I accidentally told my aunt she had changed a lot over the years, while complimenting another aunt for not changing much. She didn’t react badly, but I now feel guilty because she had been very kind to me even after that, and I’m worried I hurt her feelings and don’t know whether I should apologize or stay silent.

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