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TIFU by being shy because its easier

Little bit of background. I (25M) am a generally extroverted and outgoing person. It's really easy to make new friends with a simple fist bump and I've taught martial arts for almost 6 years. However my extrovertedness never translated with women, I've tried to date and got into the talking stage for numerous months only to be told they began talking to somebody else. I would constantly get afraid I was oversharing or texting too much or responding too quickly and all the worrying drained my battery. So I just stopped the whole outgoing personality and focused on my nerdy appearance. I love the smart look of glasses but prefer to wear my contacts. My simple solution was to get fake glasses.

Recently I somehow managed to pull all the right cards and managed to go on a few dates with this girl. She's awesome and has been telling me that shyness and glasses are a turn-on. I've told her about my vision being -7 in both eyes but not about the fake glasses because it sounds silly to have contacts but prefer glasses. Today, I met up with some friends from when I was more outgoing and brought her along. After the hangout, she said it was interesting seeing that side of me, a side she had never expected I could have. I apologized and we cuddled but she tried to pull a prank and took my glasses, saying she hid them and I should look for them. I saw where she had put them because of my contacts, pinpointed their location, and grabbed them. She was confused because they were across the room but still hidden pretty well and asked me how I knew. I explained my past but she told me I showed her a completely different person today she wasn't a fan of. She said she needs some space with all this new information. What should I do?

TL;DR: I'm an ambivert and wear fake glasses with contacts but my girlfriend who likes my shy nerdiness just found out about my extroverted past and is mad at me

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