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TIFU I was too blunt and hurt my sister's feelings

Okay for context my sister has been saving up for a house. Me (I'm pretty young so I'm not living on my own yet) and our dad were supposed to live with her when she bought a place because our mom kicked him out (happened a long time ago, not relevant). The point is he hasn't had anywhere else to live. I was sending my sister a house listing that my dad said looked good and she asked what he thought of the location. So I asked him. He said that it was fine for her but he wouldn't be staying with her so it didn't make a difference to him. Ofc I was like huh? He said he didn't want to stay with her because of her bf (he doesn't like him rn) and that he didn't want to put her in that position. He said he's finding somewhere else to stay. I immediately relayed this response via text and t-minus five seconds later was horrified when it dawned on me that although it didn't hurt my feelings it would definitely hurt hers! Ofc that's going to hurt her feelings!!! (Family is VERY important to her) I feel so bad I didn't even consider how that information would make her feel. She just responded "Oh". I apologized profusely for being so careless and she said it was fine and she just hadn't really thought about that. I got the impression she meant his opinion on the idea didn't surprise her but she just hadn't considered how the dynamic would play. I totally put my foot in my mouth. Is it as thoughtlessy callous as my mind is telling me or no? Asking an objective audience cuz I tend to play things up in my head.

"TL;DR:" basically what the title says, I have horrible tact

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