TIFU by leaving my wife home alone to have a heart attack while I played Magic the Gathering.

She is alive and recovering. I (41M) left my wife (37F) home alone while she was having a heart attack to go play Magic the Gathering.

My wife and I have been married five years. This past weekend was a release for the latest magic set. Our friendly local game store closed over a year ago, so the nearest location was an hour away. On Thursday my wife had trouble falling asleep. She was tossing and turning and said her jaw hurt and her chest was bothering her. I asked if she wanted to make a doctor appointment and she said no as she didnt have a general practitioner since her last one moved out of the area.

Friday morning we both went to work. She said she felt no better but she had been filling in responsibilities for a coworker who had not been pulling their weight recently. She said she was having trouble and very tired all day. She went to sleep early and didnt feel like eating dinner. I spent the night doing simulated magic the gathering drafts and keeping an eye on her. Taking the opportunity to heat up a frozen pizza. She didnt really like pizza and always ate balanced meals and we encouraged each other to eat decently, which was working as she had helped me loose 80 pounds since our wedding day.

Friday into Saturday again was a lot of tossing and turning. I would wake through the night to see her sitting at the head of the bed looking uncomfortable. I asked her again if we needed to go to the ER. She said she was not sure. Her mother was and still was, a nurse. Growing up with a nurse for a parent and living on a farm my wife and her 5 siblings barely went to the doctor. Her childhood illnesses were cured using fish antibiotics from a local pet and farm supply store. She recently found out she had scoliosis. She had been seen for back pain once or twice each in elementary and high school, and the male doctor always told her it was her menstrual cycle. Another reason she hated doctors.

Saturday morning I was getting prepared with my card sleeves and dice and deck boxes and she said she was still in pain, but it had snowed. I did the sidewalk and then asked her if she wanted me to skip the Magic event and go to urgent care or even the emergency room. She said maybe.

Again, let me reiterate how much she hates doctors and how little she goes. To me, a "maybe" should have been a HUGE warning sign. But I fluffed it off, have her a kiss, and said for her to call if she needed anything.

So I make the drive to the store an hour away to play. Go 1 win and 3 losses in tournament play and leave for home early defeated and silently blaming my choice for playing a deck with no removal spells. I call my wife as Im leaving, asking her if she needs anything. She answers saying she had just been outside both shoveling and taking down Christmas decorations long overdue to be taken inside. I ask if Sue wants dinner from anywhere and she says no. I asked if she was still in pain. She was and there had been no change.

We watched some Smosh and Dropout and she ate some dinner and we headed to bed. About midnight she woke me up and said "I just may need to go to the ER. I camt sleep at all" In my sleepy state it was at this point I made my biggest fuck up. I told her if she couldnt sleep, she just just turn on the Calm App. We are "Futurama sleepers" typically. She left the bedroom and I awoke a few hours later to find her on the couch still unable to sleep. She then got up and told me to drive her to the emergency room.

We got dressed and in we went. Her BP was 155/102. Troponin level was over 1,000. Nitro paste, asprin, and fentanyl. A week in the hospital. Stints put into her heart and leg. She had a bovine curve that got clogged pretty badly.

Feel pretty guilty. Shes back home. Got a meal train going. At least her mom is now helping with wound-care. No more Magic here.

TL;DR Played badly in a magic the gathering pre-release while my wife was left home alone having a heart attack and emergency surgery.