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TIFU by being a little too helpful when my girlfriend went through an identity crisis

A few months ago, my girlfriend realized she might be bisexual because she found her female coworker attractive. She went through an identity crisis, as she's religious and thought this was a 'sin'. She stopped eating, struggled sleeping, and was overall depressed for an entire month. Well, she eventually embraced the fact that she might be bi and stopped being depressed. Since it was only 1 girl she found attractive, she didn't know if it was isolated to that girl or if she was actually bi. So, wanting to help her in her journey of self discovery, I suggested that she download a dating app like Bumble/Tinder. I advised her to set the filter to only see girls, then start swiping and see if she found any girls attractive. I told her I'm fine with her flirting with girls on the app just to see how she feels about it.

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Well, my advice might have worked well. TOO well. She started swiping, found other girls she found attractive too, and started talking to them. Then she started FaceTiming one of them. Then she told me that she has feelings for her. Well, she recently told me that if the girl asks her to date, she will say yes. She apologized and said that she has to know what it's like to date a girl. The worst part is, they have never even met up. I'm still talking to her, but don't consider her my Girlfriend anymore and am basically counting down the days until the other girl decides to ask her out, which apparently will be very soon. We're still on good terms and none of this happened with a fight, we're fine with each other. But the past few days, she's just been crying a lot apologizing for putting us and herself in this position. The past few days, she's completely disappeared on me and has just been FaceTiming the girl the entire day/night. It's definitely over.

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Overall, the thing that kills me the most is that she wouldn't have even met this girl if I hadn't told her to download a dating app. I'm glad I helped her discover herself, but it was at the cost of our relationship. Another horrible part for me is the fact that she hasn't even met this girl in person yet.

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TL;DR: Girlfriend suspected that she might be bisexual. I suggested that she get a dating app to test the waters. She got a dating app, found a girl that she developed strong feelings for, and is likely leaving my very soon for this girl.

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