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TIFU by texting my girlfriend's mom about marriage.

Just happened an hour ago... ruined it.

I've finally come to the decision to marry my gf. I started setting up my squad of minions to do my bidding in masterplanning a marvelous surprise proposal. Got my sister activated. The cousin was initiating the mission on point. I was about to onboard her sister and another cousin. The battlefield was looking tight.

Meanwhile I figured I'd talk to her mom first because there are some big challenges: they live in SE Asia and we live on the West Coast or US, and the distance has been the source of a lot of emotional nights.

So I message my gf's cousin to translate my intention and the question about my concerns on distance from them. Smooth. Got the translation and read it a bit myself and hit send yesterday around 2pm. The time distance is such that it was around 6 or 7am where the mom lives, so I had about 2 or 3 hours to wait. 5pm rolls around my time and I see the message has been read. So I imagined she would respond soon - nope. I get a little sinking feeling that maybe it was too direct and blunt... I wake up to work the next day and still no response. Then I'm checking my phone through the day - still nothing.

I got home from work today and start checking slyly to see if my gf has talked with her family members. As soon as I mention her mom, her face curls up like a kid loving their birthday cake trying to look cool.

That woman snitched. Her mother snitched and told my gf! I didn't even finish finding a gem and ring.

Icing on the cake: her dad messages her right as she reveals her mom as the snitch, "so what's the wedding going to be like".

My whole plan, destroyed. I got Trojan-horsed. Who does that?! These things are secrets! And then I look back at the message and realized I never said it was in the translation. So, I guess I played myself. Idk how to recover from this now. So many days scheming and energy invested..gone.

TLDR; I asked my gf's mom in SE Asia about marrying her daughter and forgot to translate to keep it a secret. She snitched to her daughter and ghosted my LINE message. Surprise planned destroyed.

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