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TIFU by thinking I was in a relationship for 6 months

During what I believed to be a normal text conversation with my “boyfriend” of over a year today, he mentioned that he had a bunch of sexy things like lingerie in his Amazon list that he was never gonna get to buy or use with anyone. I responded by asking, “You don’t wanna use them with me?” He responded, “No, I didn’t plan on that.”

At this point, I took the strong hint that he didn’t expect us to be physically sexy together again. That’s a weird thing to tell your “girlfriend.”

I told him I thought we were in a relationship. I thought we’d been together long distance for 6 months with plans to live together again once he moved for work but apparently we were not actually together at all during that time.

I bought and sent him birthday gifts, always looked for one of his favorite snacks at a certain store he doesn’t have in his area to send him, wore some his clothes I still had at my place (undies included!), flirted, and told him I cared about him for 6 months.

We were never super big on explicit “I love yous” or anything like that so I had no idea anything was off. I noticed he was texting me less often but when I asked about it he always said he was extremely busy with work (navy). I felt a little ignored but was doing my best to be supportive and understanding.

I’ve never dated a guy who didn’t immediately ghost me or trash talk me after the end of a relationship so I took his friendship / general caring about me as a person the wrong way.

He said he felt awful about the misunderstanding and didn’t realize that I thought we were still together.

He’d been chatting with me as an ex / friend, and I was chatting with him as a boyfriend. All my friends and family thought we were still together and now I have no idea what to tell them. I’m so embarrassed.

We’ve made arrangements to send each other’s belongings back sometime and I think we both learned a lesson about communication. I feel like an idiot!

TL;DR I thought I was in a long distance relationship for 6 months and found out I wasn’t over text when my “boyfriend” told me he didn’t plan on getting sexy with me again.

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