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TIFU and AITA by suggesting an abortion to my know ex girlfriend

The title sounds tough, I know.

So I got a story here that's totally a big TIFU and AITA alike.

So of course I thought it would be wise to hear the infamous internet strangers opinions on the matter.

Here's the deal: I'm a 25 years old guy that happened to get my now ex girlfriend pregnant without planning insert complaints and comments on irresponsible sex.

We were both unemployed at the time, our families are financially unstable, plus I'm going through a recovery process of a psychosis.

Yes, it is that dramatic.

Now for 10 days, after the test was positive I was in denial of the whole thing, and I didn't have the courage to take the position of being pro abortion in this particular case because I knew it would be a big hit on the relationship, considering she's 100% anti-abortion. Furthermore I was psychologically sick at the time.

So, after speaking with my family, I build up the courage to speak with her and tell her, for the reasons above, it's not the best time to have the kid, and sh*it happens: she freaks out, kicks me out of her place, and ends up the relationship. Pretty much overreacting in my opinion.

Now I try to calm down, and inspire myself in the wisdom of The Art of War by Sun Tzu, which I was intelligently reading at the time. Those sneaky ancient Chinese should have some mentorship in this regard.

I decide to wait, which would mean I would be perceived as an absent father and her opinion on the abortion could change (even though I prefer to be at least emotionally supportive if she decided to have the kid)

Doesn't sound bad right?

Wrong.

2 weeks forward she still wants the kid, and alas, I'm accepting my fate: I'm going to be a father at the age of 25.

Conclusions:

While I at least want to be emotionally present, I cannot compromise myself financially on the short-medium term.

Do you overall consider my judgement to be morally correct? How can I approach this situation wisely and intelligently?

I don't recall Sun Tzu to prepare parenthood battle plans, so this where fellow internet redditors take its part.

Thank you.

TL;DR - Got my now ex girlfriend pregnant, she broke up with me for wanting abortion and now I'm going to be a single 25 year old father.

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