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This happened back in high school. I was a F16 year old nerdy, introvert who was best friends with J (18F)) an outgoing girl with many friends. We were in a group with different people but somewhat consistently hanging out with two 18 year old guys B and C during one summer break.
I had a mild crush with C as I thought he was cute and funny. He was a bit of an introvert too and we hit it off well with some common interests.
J told me that the C has a major crush on me as well. So, I sort of let that interest grew into infatuation - J would actively encourage it and kept telling me that C had developed feelings for me - "he is always looking for you, see how he looks at you and how he is always talking to you, he is just waiting for you to tell him your feelings because he is shy…"
Sadly I was a naive girl and believed J. So, I confessed my feelings to C. He was very kind and said that he was flattered but that he was gay. He knew I was shy so wanted to befriend me.
Behind my back, B and J were actually laughing about my “cute infatuation” with C. Despite knowing C was only interested in dating men - they plotted to make me fall for the guy just for laughs. She apologized and I believed her.
I knew J had a mean streak because she could be unkind. I thought I was exempt because she said I was her “best friend”. In fact, she was a queen bee type and I was just one of her many hanger-ons she could bully.
I was deeply embarrassed because of what happened. And I thought our mutual friends were also in on it. I started to slowly disengage from this friend group. Looking back, it taught me it is okay to be alone rather than have bullies for "friends". Also, found better friends later.
TL/DR: My best friend set me up by telling me a guy I had a crush on also likes me and was just waiting for me to confess my feelings. So, I did. He didn’t like me and told me he was gay and only interested in men.
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