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TIFU by confessing to my girlfriend that I wasn't actually a virgin

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 year. The majority of this was long distance. We only moved to the same city a couple of months ago. She is a virgin. Sex is something she does not take casually. She always joked about me not being experienced enough sexually. I did clear it up once that I have had some experience in the past and she brushed it off saying that it was so long ago it's like i never had any. She'd joke about me being a virgin from time to time and I could never gather the courage to bring up that I'd had sex in my previous relationship. I'm not sure why i did this. I think it was partly that my girlfriend believed that I wasn't completely over my previous relationship because any mention of it would upset her.

The topic of me being sexually inexperienced came up when we were drunk and then I confessed that I'd had sex with my previous girlfriend. Even this happened in the worst possible way, with her having to prod me after an uncomfortable silence.

Very understandably, she's decided to break up with me. I understand that it's a violation of her trust in me on so many different levels. This is a person who put in so much effort into loving me and this is how i pay them back.

TL;DR Lied to a long time girlfriend about being a virgin, ended up confessing when we were drunk and this broke our year long relationship overnight

Edit: To the people saying she's breaking up with me for not being a virgin, that isn't her issue. Her issue is that I lied to her about something she feels strongly about. The reason she's breaking up with me is because she can't trust me on anything anymore. Which I feel is fair, however harsh it may sound.

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