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TIFU by over sharing at work

I feel so stupid right now.

Background: my brother is trying to change jobs (and succeeding it most likely this week, but there’s always that 1% that could go wrong) because his current work is a toxic environment.

Someone from my department who I barely speak to said she was talking to her best friend and my country’s name came up, so they both said they knew someone from that nationality. It turns out it was me and my brother. Her best friend is the HR at his company.

I was positively surprised when I heard that. My brother sits right next to this HR person and has always said great things about her. For some stupid reason I thought they were friends. He has mentioned some personal things he’s shared with her, and she’s had helped him with some medical things.

After showering the HR person with compliments, I asked if she said anything about him or the company, and added he might not be a good fit there. My coworker said her friend never talks about the company, and that’s just the way she’s been trained. I said something like “that makes sense, one of the reasons he has a hard time there is because he’s just a more open person”, and we left at that.

Needless to say, he’s furious at me. He said she will go straight to the CEO with that.

I was so shocked, I thought they were friends but apparently he doesn’t share his issues about the company with her. He said she’s HR first and foremost, not his friend (again, so stupid). I apologized and apologized, and still feel super bad.

Now he feels extra pressure to finalize this other job recruitment asap.

After he calmed down a bit he said it wasn’t so bad because I only talked about him, no one else, and he’s fine being seen as “not a good fit” because they probably know that already. He was just trying to be nice I think.

I just feel like such an idiot. I won’t sleep until he signs with this new company. It will be a long week.

TL:DR. I told my coworker who is my brother’s HR’s best friend he might not be a good fit at his company

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