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TIFU by going through my wife's phone

Wife (possibly) cheated with her ex

So for context, my wife (F27) and I (M33) have been together for 5 years and married for just over 3 years. We've had some rough spots with arguments and whatnot, but who hasn't? We've never talked about divorce or anything. We had our son last year and life has been pretty good. I never suspected her of cheating or anything despite joking about her "other boyfriend" every now and then. She and I got new phones last weekend because she wanted a new one to take pictures on our first cruise. The cruise went well with no really arguments until the last night right before bed. So all day yesterday we didn't really talk much on the long drive home. Today, she went to her mom's house to sell some of the baby stuff. While she was doing that, I was going to get our old phones ready to ship back for the rebate on the new phones. I was still irritated, so I went through her phone (I know, it was wrong) and found messages with her ex going back to before we were married that I deem as inappropriate. Then some of the less veiled messages occurred when she was pregnant with (what I assume) is my my child. I'm absolutely devastated. I don't know how to come back from this... She and my son are all I have. I don't know what to do. She knows something is wrong because I picked my son up from her and brought him home and she could see the hurt on my face. I told her that we will talk tonight, because she had a concert tonight (also, I know the "we need to talk" would ruin her whole day... ). One of the messages was about using her 10 year reunion as a cover to hook up, which is tonight, but I really think she is actually going to the concert.) I don't know what to do... I don't know if we can come back from this... I'm terrified of leaving because in my state, the woman almost always gets the child in the divorce and I don't want to lose my little best friend. I work a full time job with overtime just to make ends meet so she can stay home with our son. I sold my old house to buy the one we're in now because she wanted it. I do everything for her and this is how she repays me? I have no one to talk to about any of this because her and my some are my world. My mom passed last year and my dad is out of the picture. I'm so hurt and lost... I don't know what I'm going to do...

TL;DR: Went through my wife's phone and found out she was talking about hooking up with her ex

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