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TIFU by taking a photo with one of my friends I’ve known for 8 years and it made my GF dump me

This story is pretty long and wild so I’ll try to make a TLDR at the bottom.

So I was with my ex since high school, it was my senior year we started dating. We were together for almost 5 years, it was the best time of our lives we always talked about the future and how we love each other so much. We shared hobbies, playing video games, sports, going out together to bars with friends.

However, her life got kinda messy halfway through the relationship, first of all she lost all of her friends because she claimed they were mean to her. She would come home crying hanging out with her friends saying how they would bully and exclude her in conversation’s deliberately being mean. And after about 6 months of that she essentially cut them off and was left with just me as her real only friend. Which was fine because we we’re definitely best friends and I had a very large social circle that accepted her and she liked them all.

Okay so now she’s going to university, she makes a couple good friends. However like 6 months later again she stops being friends with them bc they are excluding her and not inviting her. Pretty much the same thing and she didn’t try to put any effort in and once again didn’t have any one else but me. Which once again I was fine with and supported her no matter what.

However where the issues started to effect our relationship is when she dropped out of university going into 2nd year. She pretty much just sat at home by her self or was with me and smoking a lot of weed with no real future plan at the time and saw no issue with it. Me though, I’m very motivated and was in a very intense fast track college program to become a pilot, and I think that maybe intimidated her? I’m not to sure, but whenevr I would try to talk to her about careers or school she would get mad and kinda just never come to a conclusion.

Okay so fast forward, to spring she gets a job at a private golf course. She absolutely loved working here, she is an absolutely beautiful blonde girl that makes really good money with tips and the environment has some type of cult like feel to it where every member knows her name and gives her kinda of a purpose in life. If that makes sense….

So first summer seems fine she made money, had fun and made some new work friends.

Fall tho is coming up and she still doesn’t know what to do for school, so decides not to go back. Fast forward too spring again and she is back working at the golf course more then ever and kinda acting differently.

Like I said we never got in fights ever that were so serious it couldn’t be resolved in less than an hour or before bed. But this august she flipped out on me one day because she saw I took photos with another girl (just us sitting beside each other on a couch) that has been in my social circle since elementary school, who she also has known now for 4 years. My gf was also insecure but I had no idea me taking photos would result in this.

She saw the photos by going on my phone when I was sleeping, even tho I always let her on my phone anyway. And a week later she called me at 12am balling her eyes out calling me a cheater and asking if I loved her still.

And then like 4 days later she dumped me, completely blindsided I was shattered.

I should also note that her parents bought her a new dog to help with her mental state because she’s been so off, and that dog died about 4 weeks before our fight. And they only owned it for about 5 months and it shattered her.

Okay so after she breaks up with me she tells me she still loves me and wants to talk to me everyday, I was very confused by this. She also told me that she wants to get back together in the future and she just needs time to heal. So like 2 days go by of us talking. And I tell her that this is bullshjt and isn’t fair to me. So i iniate no contact, and this is about mid august.

Fast forward to end of august I get a phone call for a job offer at my 1st pick major airline. It was like a blessing from god, I’m a good looking 22 year old man that’s going to be making 70$ an hour with great opportunities ahead of me.

So after we breakup too, I learn she’s been sneakily doing pills at work since last summer. She’s been doing adderall recreationally, and a work colleague who is a 50 year old women has been supplying them to her for free. Take into, that this 50 yearold now hangs out with my 20 yearold gf just them two, drinking wine and doing adderall together and this is one of her only friends.

Fast forward to September she reaches out to me and wishes me happy bday. Then a week later she finds out about my new job, and reaches out again congratulating me and saying howproud she is and abunch of small talk. Then another week goes by and it’s our university home coming, she doesn’t have any friends tho right. So she decides to go out with her original highschool friends who use to bully her to the point where she would cry and be shaking when I would pick her up.

Later that day, I get a phone call from her but didn’t answer because I was drinking and busy and just didn’t notice at the time. So I texted her the next day just asking if she had something important to say. And she replied with sorry it was an accident, I highly doubt you can call someone by accident especially when you don’t talk anymore.

Maybe I dodged a bullet? I dont know this situation is very strange and messing with me mentally.

TLDR: Gf of 5 years randomly dumped me over one fight that wasn’t even serious, but wanted to stay in contact and told me we’d be back together, and after the fact I found out a bunch of messed up issues and still am confused where my heart is at

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