TIFU by actually meeting up with someone who sent a creepy Tinder message. He later got arrested for SA someone else. And now his mom is contacting me.

Over the summer, I had a short fling with a man who got my attention on tinder with the message “I want to tie you up, fuck you, use toys on you, shower, cuddle, and then sleep.” I was horny and very down. It was probably a week before we actually met up, and I super enjoyed our text convo, felt like I got to know him and that we would jive in person. Finally met up —- one of those magical all day, all night, all next day kind of dates. He was so fun and very smart and introspective. He seemed super super into me, and vice versa. I felt amazing.

Over the next week, we texted constantly and talked on the phone like every day. But, all the sudden, I stop hearing from him! A few days go by and I start to worry I’m getting ghosted. But it felt like we were beyond that point?

After a few days of no contact (I tried to play it cool) I google him to see if there’s an obituary somewhere. Like I literally thought only his death would explain this. Instead I found a news article. On the day I’d stopped hearing from him, he’d been arrested on charges of first degree sexual conduct and kidnapping. He’d apparently raped a 19yo the night before. (Coincidentally, we’d been texting that night and out of nowhere he said “sorry I took a late night nap” 😂). I have no idea what happened, but I assume it involved his BDSM kink.

Anywho, that man has been in jail ever since. He wasn’t given bail (presumably bc he’s a “threat to society”). He apparently has a bail hearing tomorrow. His mother (!!) called and left me a voicemail today asking me to attend. I cannot fucking believe this. Like what am I supposed to say “no Judge, this man I knew for two weeks never raped me.” I am shocked and trying to not to spiral out over his mom contacting me. I obviously want nothing to do with this person and will not be calling his mother back or attending the hearing lol

I hate that this is the only thing that’s happened in my life that’s Reddit worthy.

TL;DR was way to trusting of someone, they got arrested for SA someone else, and now his mother is contacting me to attend a bail meeting.