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TIFU: I(32F) messed up by "blowing up/" his(27m) phone

So short story, long story short , I matched with this guy on Hinge back in December. He was on vacation when we matched over the holidays and he initiated making plans. We added each other on Snapchat, had a bit of small talk, then we set plans to meet up when he came back, that date being January 3rd.

December 31st: I asked him what time we would meet up; he said he didn't have one because he had to coach a basketball game, so he would keep me posted.

January 3rd: I sent a cute video explaining I was excited to meet him. I didn't hear from him all day. I even took a nap and when I woke up, he had shared a story post of him somewhere else, so I messaged him and I was like if you didn't even want to meet up, you could've just said that. He Read my messages later that night saying that he's sorry, and if we can make it up.

we were hit with a snowstorm that weekend so I sent him a message saying to stay safe and that he can feel free to video chat me in the meantime until we can meet in person for real.

Fast forward: first video chat on January 8, covered the basics, what are you looking for, where are you from etc.

Made plans to meet the next week didn't work because of our schedules. But we did video chat and talk a little bit since then.

Fast forward to this past monday the 28th we finally had the time to meet so we met up at his house that night. Cuddle watch movie talk some more kissed a little bit and things were heating up a bit but We had to cut the night short because he had a minor allergic reaction to products that were in my hair(braids). As we were parting ways, he said it was nice meeting you and I proceeded to ask would you be interested in hanging out again and he said "we'll see what the future holds".

The next morning Tuesday, he calls me to let me know he's OK. He had to take some Benadryl p.m. and slept it off. We then proceeded to talk about how the night went. We both agreed it was a really chill night, good vibes, etc. And then proceeded to have a conversation about what we were doing that day, He said he would call back, but he didn't. My anxiety got the better of me and I end up asking like so are we good? Are we OK to continue moving forward basically.

I called him back on Wednesday morning and he said addressed it saying that he's not sure where he wants things to go, but he does enjoy talking to me in general because I'm a cool person. And that we could start as friends. Again he had to go and I messaged him after the call. And was saying I understood we only known each other for like a month, so that was fair and that I enjoy talking to him as well. And then proceeded to try to hold small talk, but he kept leaving me on seen/opened.

It wasn't until Thursday that he came back and said good morning. I texted him good morning how are you? How did you sleep? And then I proceeded to call him around the time. We usually speak that I figured was his lunch break. I called once and it instantly declined so I thought OK that's weird. I called video one more time and made a phone call, and he didn't answer. And then he messaged me and said he was in a meeting. So I said, “ OK, my apologies.” When I got back onto Snap, I saw a little icon next to his name that said “ join call,” and I was confused. So I clicked the button, and it ended up dialing him again, so I quickly hung up because he was in the meeting. But he proceeded to message me and said, “Yeah, I'm good. I don't want to be friends or anything.” And I was like, “Wait, why?” and he was like, “Cause you're blowing my lineup while I'm in a business meeting, and I don't feel compatible.” So I was like, “Wait, I apologize. I didn't know I didn't intend to call you that last time, but at this point, he started deleting all of his messages, pictures, etc., and then I was blocked.

And here I am on Reddit feeling absolutely hurt and stupid.

TL;DR: I matched with a guy on Hinge in December, and after some missed plans and slow texting, we finally met up in January. Things seemed to go well, but he was unsure about where he wanted things to go. I got nervous and tried to keep the connection going by checking in and calling a few times. Unfortunately, I accidentally called him multiple times while he was in a meeting, which led him to say I was “blowing up his phone.” He then told me he didn’t want to be friends or continue talking, deleted all his messages, and blocked me. Now, I feel like I messed up by not giving him enough space.

EDIT: yes I am listening to what yall are saying. Yes i do see how i did blow up his phone i can admit that. But like i said i assumed he was free, since the time i called he usually is available, and because the day before he kept my leaving me on read, my emotions took over.

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