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TIFU I might have given a wrong advice leading to accident

I(21M) and my family friend(22M) one day were having casual talk. 1.5 yr ago his father committed suicide because of some family issues. He was alcoholic. Great guy . RIP. His family took lot of time to recover from this .After his dad’s passing away his family is left with his younger brother,his mother and him. His brother(18M) was attending college as of now. While we were talking he mentioned his brother not attending his college recently . Me being good at studies and knowing importance of determination in young age , suggested him to take good care of his younger brother and put him in right path even if it is rough for either/both of them. I said something like “you should be the one to take care of him . Being brother you can make sure he is in right path even if he doesnt like it/you”. After almost a month ,i get a call from my dad saying the younger brother has committed suicide. I was in shock and couldn’t contemplate what was going on.After a long explanation : His brother on the day he committed to take his own life left to college in the morning and attended a college festival and got drunk . Returning to home his mom found out about this and confronted him with lot of grief and dissatisfaction ( because of his father’s alcohol addiction His father was under the influence while he committed suicide.) i dont know if she physically hit him . When my friend got home and got to know about the situation , with the intention of putting his brother on right track hit him and asked him to leave house. After that it is told that his brother left the house and went to their farm house and hung himself . Before committing the act he sent a message to his gf , who contacted my friend . By the time my frnd reached the spot his brother already hung himself and passed away. For context thier relation was intercaste and was acknowledged by his family while her family wasn’t completely comfortable.

After getting to know this i was devastated and felt like my suggestion was the reason to this . My only intension was to help him get better . There can be lot of reasons for this but me even accidentally being one is unbearable for me .

After 2 weeks , my mom calls me and mentioned his gf also committed suicide. She already once told her family that if she wouldnt get married to him , even after marrying some one else for the sake of her parents will finally end up committing suicide.this is heart crushing for me .i have been carrying this guilt of saying just small thing would lead to this devastating situation . Every time i see my frnd i feel so heavy . Now his family is himself and his mom . RIP.
TL:DR; i suggested my friend to be rough if needed to keep his brother in right path and ended up in his brother and his gf committing suicide. Be safe . Peace.

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