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TIFU by dming an old bumble match

The fuck-up isn't even in me dming the bumble match, but what happened afterwards.

I matched with a pretty cute guy on bumble towards the start of this year. He was interesting, we had nice conversation- but unfortunately there was a situation in my personal life that made me unable to pay attention to anything but the issue. I let him know that i couldn't do anything rn, and apologised. I guess he unfollowed me at some point, which I didn't know of and forgot about him up until a week ago, when he popped up on my recommended.

I'm doing much better now, and remembered that it was kind of a great match between him and I. I followed him, he followed me back, and that's where the dilemma started.

I didn't want to be one of those people who just randomly message you on social media. As a woman I'd find it creepy to randomly text someone. So i just dropped a text telling him that he looked so familiar, asking if I knew him. Just to reconnect, no expectations from the conversation.From there, the conversation continued. The banter was great, we really got along, and because I wasn't pre occupied with issues, the vibe this time was so much nicer. It was a lot of playful teasing, which i loved.

Fast forward to multiple days of conversation, we were just pulling each other's leg when I told him that i remembered him as a match, wanted to text him but didn't know what to say, and hence went with the hey, you look so familiar ..text. He was surprised that he didn't remember me, teased me about being a little stalkery (I don't know if it was teasing, though) and told me that me reaching out was nice. The vibe shifted a little after this, and now i think I screwed up.

I get chronically anxious sometimes, I'm starting to think I fucked up by doing this. i didn't mean to come off as creepy, just wanted to reach out. It's a shame if this messed up the vibe because he really is an interesting person, and id love to have to opportunity to go on a date with him someday.

TLDR:- Matched with a great guy on Bumble earlier this year but had to step back due to personal issues. Recently reconnected on social media with a playful message, things were going well until I admitted I remembered him from before-now the vibe feels off, and I'm worried I came off as creepy even though I meant well.

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