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TIFU by asking my coworker if her friend was her mom in front of both of them...

This happened a few days ago. My work paid for a +1 event at a sports game. I remember hearing that my coworker usually came to the games with her dad, so I believe this contributed to the mental gymnastics that my brain decided to perform... I saw my coworker with with a girl and convinced myself that this was her mom because, of course she could only possibly be there with one of her parents, right? Totally......

I had a couple of drinks and I was super tired after a long work week, so this didn't help me maintain my normal social filter. When I stopped by where my coworker and her friend were sitting, instead of introducing my myself like a normal human being, I decided to ask my coworker, "is this your mom?" right in front of both of them. I am just...so stupid sometimes...

My coworker laughed it off thankfully. She imitated her friend saying, "I'm leaving!" and replied to me, "No, haha... this is my friend." I apologized profusely and explained that I thought she always came with her family for some reason, so that's why I thought that. I knew that still didn't really make any sense and said, "I'm sorry... I'm dumb..." My coworker was super nice and said, "Oh yeah, well I do usually come with my dad, that's true. But yeah, this is my friend."

Immediately after the exchange, I died a little on the inside. I realized, not only did I just imply that my coworker's friend looked old enough to be her mom, but I also feel like I came off as racist because they are both Asian. I also have never heard my coworker mention her mom before so I have no idea if her mom is around. Definitely not my proudest moment :(...

At least my coworker and I get along well at work and I'm usually really mindful of what I say, so I think she knows I'm not usually that insensitive. Her friend didn't really react or respond much though... rightfully so. I just really hope her friend's feelings weren't actually hurt by my stupidity. I'm also just scared of doing something like that again. Thankfully my boyfriend is great and consoled me in saying that my coworker and her friend probably forgot about it immediately.

TL;DR: I asked if my coworker's friend was her mom in front of both of them, implying that I thought she looked old and that all Asians look alike. HUGE oof.

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