TIFU by buying from a seller that I previously gave a unfavourable review

Before I start: I know in my head that this is not a big deal, but my nervous system doesn't, so I am trying to regulate the stress by writing it down here. Maybe you find joy in my "suffering".

I (25f) am a collector. I collect all kinds of weird stuff, but one of my biggest collections is bones. Mostly animal skulls, like sheep, cat, fox and alot of deer skulls. It started with a fox skull that someone gifted me seven years ago, and my collection has grown since. It is not huge, but big enough for people to ask me if I am a hunter and then get weirded out when I tell them I am not.

Although I try to find my own remains, I haven't had much luck so I get most of my skulls second hand from a website, that is like ebay but for just my (very small) country.

Since I stared my bone collection, it has been my dream to get my hands on a horse skull. I don't really know why, I don't particularly like horses and my bf hates them with a burning passion (don't ask why), ig it's because they are just really creepy looking.

I had multible chances to get one, but it always fell through either from me being outbid or them being too expencive. For refrence, a horse skull normaly runs between 200 to 500 bucks, which is ALOT for me, so I have held of from getting one, when they popped up.

So you can imagien my delight when my bf told me about a skull that was put up, for a starting bit of 1 buck, and the option to just outright buy it and bypass the bidding for only 50 bucks. This is a fucking steal. So I went to the listing, looked at the pictures (the skull is in bad condition but still!) and without thinking much I bought the skull.

The place where it was sold was in my area, so I wanted to opt for picking it up myself, to save the shipping fee, but my bf told me to just get it send here, which I am so greatful for now.

When looking at the bank info of the seller, my heart sank, because the name seemed very familiar.

Rewinding to a year ago, I bid on a huge lot with alot of deer mandibals (?) and won with the end price being under 20 bucks. The place to pick it up was a 15 minute train ride away so I made myself ready to go, when my bf (my lifesaver honestly) offerd to come with. So we went on our merry way, found the house and rang the doorbell.

The man that opend was a dude in a metallica shirt with long hair, in his late 30s/early 40s. I thought "sick another metal head" and instantly felt at ease. He greeted us and let us into the home, where a cute dog ran towads us. I got exited and wanted to pet the dog, when the dude just started screaming from the top of the lungs for the dog to go to its bed. My bf and I looked at eachother horrified and I precided to awkwardly tell the man, that we are fine with dogs, but he just continued screaming at the poor animal.

I don't really rememberd what went down after that, but after some very awkward smalltalk we grabbed the crate full of bones, payed him and fled the house of horros.

There where alot more bones than anticipated, so it was a very weird ride back, with people just staring at my latest haul, while we where discussing how glad we where, that I did not go alone.

I would have probably not left a review, if I did not discover that like 90% of the bones had really bad grease damage. Basicly, if a bone is not treated right after defleashing, grease in the bones will trun the bone yellow or even see through, with a wet feeling to it, and in bad cases even begin to smell, and this was one of the cases. Yes, ik very disgusting.

I started the degreasing process, which can take up to six months. I was bummed yes, but the worst part that stuck with me was how that man treated the dog. Like dude, it's bad enough to scream at your animal for doing animal stuff, but in front of strangers no less.

So after two months or so of still thinking about this crazy encounter, I left a review.

For context: you can leave, positiv, negative or neutral reviews on this site. The first two affect your rating, where as the neutral doesen't. I opted for a neutral review, beacuse I am scared of confrontation and still did not want to affect the seller negativly. I expressed the problem with the grease damage and that I was "not a fan" of how he treated the dog. Just two sentances, not going into details or mentioning the screaming. So I went on with my life. (I also want to note here, that for reasons that where out of my control, the bones got disposed of, so I did not even get anything out of this very unpleasant encounter...)

Anyways, you already know where this is going: the guy who sold the horse skull, is the same guy that screamed at his dog. I did not realise because the seller moved places, and I did not remember his user name.

Well thats kinda awkward, but no big deal, because I also moved and it was a year ago, so maybe he forgot this whole thing. I also kinda hoped, that he never saw the review, because I also rarely check mine, but this hope was destroyed when I looked at my own reviews...

There, posted just a week ago, was a neutral review of screaming at his poor dog guy. He wrote that the condition of the bones was evident from the pictures (not the case) and that how he spoke with the dog was "flawless" and had nothing to do with the sale. Which is true, but I think it is my moral duty to report to my fellow bone collecting weirdos, that this man is a piece of shit who yells at his dog. I think I should have just written that honestly. "CAREFUL: this man screams at his dog for multible minutes while you stand there, wondering if you are next!!!"

Probably good tho, that i did not, because when I saw that review posted just a week ago, I honestly almost started to cry. What are the odds, not just that I accidentaly bought from this man again, but he also saw the review just a week ago, eliminating the chance of him maybe forgetting or atleast not caring about it anymore.

It has been multible hours that I discoverd this fact, and I honestly have been so out of it. My heart is beating like crazy, and I am just waiting for this lunatic to show up at my place. My bf thinks it is hilarous and that I am over reacting, WHICH I KNOW I AM, but rn I just want to hide away from the world. WHY DID THE UNIVERSE DO THIS TO ME?!?! And why did it give me the emotional resiliance of a mouse with ptsd? I know it is just a very bad coincidence, and it could be worse, but MAN!

Anyways I just had to get my pathetic dilemma of my chest to find some clarity again. I hopefully will update this post when I recive the skull in the mail. If I don't it means one of two things: one, i forgot I posted this, or two, I have been murderd by the guy that screams at his dog, which is obviously the MOST LIKELY outcome.

Until then I will be nervously biting my nails.

I also want to apolegize for my spelling, I know big english words from consuming media, but have never seen them written out.

TL;DR: I bought from a seller that I previously gave a unfavourable review because he screamed at his dog and am now making up the worst case scenario