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TIFU by sleeping with my bestfriend who has a boyfriend

I 17(F) and my best friend also 17(F) - let’s call her Emma - have been super close for a couple years now, we met playing for the same football team. She has been with her boyfriend M(17) for two years. Both me and my friend are outwardly bisexual and I have always noticed a certain tension between us which isn’t exactly friendly and there has been certain moments where i’ve felt like something could happen.

The boyfriend who I will call Marcus (idk if any of them have reddit lol) has had a few moments of being unfaithful to Emma, not really enough to be fully cheating but definitely weird. One time we were all at a house party and Marcus had his hand on another friends 17(F) thigh under a blanket which I moved because I saw movement under it. There has been other instances similar.

Anyway I had a big family party which Emma had been invited to - she spends a lot of time at my house and knows my whole extended family. After all the rest of the guests left we were cuddled up on the sofa at about 3am, I noticed she was getting more and more touchy and tbh I reciprocated - I kinda had a crush on her but never acted on it because she had a boyfriend. We were inches from each others face and she was playing with my hair and leant in to kiss me. I kissed her back and we ended up sleeping together - for the next week we spent every minute together and were sleeping together pretty much every night of that week.
Eventually we came back to reality and had a heartbreaking conversation where she admitted she had had feelings for me for months and I said the same. It ended in tears and her saying that she needs to break up with her boyfriend and then we can figure out what we are. I obviously felt like shit, I know the boyfriend was inappropriate with other girls but that doesn’t justify me homewrecking.

After a few weeks she broke up with boyfriend and then without talking to me told our entire friendgroup what had happened and painted me in a horrible light. She told them that she was drunk (she was not we had like two drinks hours and hours before) and that I took advantage of the situation, knowing that her and her boyfriend had been going through a rough patch. I only ever reciprocated at the same level of intimacy she initiated because I was so scared of her thinking this - she was telling me how she was in love with me the entire time.

Anyway this ended in my whole friendgroup being angry with me, thinking I had split up an otherwise happy couple and that I took advantage of Emma. I couldn’t bring myself to come to school for a week to the point where my mum had to get in touch with a therapist because I wouldn’t leave my room. To make it worse when I went to football training I had multiple of our mutual friends asking if what she said was true - it was so so humiliating.

Fast forward a few weeks and me and Emma were on speaking terms again, she still hadn’t apologised but I was stupid and in love so I let it happen. She tells me she was talking to another girl from our football team - obviously my heart dropped - I was waiting for this whole thing to blow over so we could figure our relationship out. Eventually she tells me they slept together and that was my breaking point, I broke down crying and she tells me that was she said during that week didn’t mean anything and she was confused - and said it was weird that I wanted a relationship with her. This entire time my friendgroup had been weird with me, I had tried explaining what actually happened but they all said I crossed a line and shouldn’t have taken advantage. I don’t know what to do it feels like everything is falling apart, any advice?

TL;DR: So basically I slept with my bestfriend who has a boyfriend now my entire friendgroup hates me

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