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TIFU by talking too much about someone's marriage

A couple of months ago, a close friend, who I considered like a sister, asked me to babysit her children for several weeks all of a sudden because her husband had left the family home. At the time, she was emotional and didn't know whether he was coming back every day and she thought about divorcing him.During that period, I told my parents about what was happening because I was upset and processing everything. I also remember telling two friends. I honestly don't remember every conversation I had during those weeks, and it's possible I mentioned it to other people, but I genuinely don't know remember since it was months ago.

Her husband returned after 2½ weeks, and today she confronted me. She said I told many people at our commity that her husband had left her and was never coming back. I told people who were wondering where the husband was that he was in german (like she said) with his family but I also told some people the truth but can't honestly say with certainty who I spoke to during that time.I tried explaining that I didn't intentionally spread gossip, and I apologized. At one point I even got on my knees because I didn't want to lose the friendship. She told me not to "make a drama" out of it and said she never wants me near her family ever again. My parents got to know about it due to seeing me cry about it and I told them what happened.

Later, her father called me after my father and him spoke. He apologized for how the conversation and situation was handled and said he hopes we can become friends again someday but I doubt it. I've realized I probably shouldn't have discussed such a private family matter at all, and I want to change that about myself. At the same time, I feel devastated because this was someone I considered family, and now I feel completely rejected, because I ruined the whole family just by talking.

TL;DR:
I shared private details about a close friend's marriage during a difficult time, deeply hurt her trust, lost our friendship despite apologizing, and am now trying to come to terms with the consequences of my mistake.

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