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TIFU by accidentally rejecting a girl 3 times

I hope this still fits here but I kinda wanted to share this story after all that time to maybe help someone not doing the same mistakes I did. Also english is not my first language.

I (now M35, 22 at that time) and a girl (F33, 20 at that time) met a couple of weeks ago. and started to be friends and hang out occasionally.

First Chance: Then there was this day, where we hung out all day long and then after that we went to her place and watched some fail videos on youtube. After a while we kissed and she looked at me and said: "If you don't leave, we might do something stupid." I automatically noded like I understood the assignment, hugged her, got up and left. I honestly did not realize what she meant at first but this was the first time questioning myself, why I did not get that.

Second Chance: Fast forward about two weeks later: We agreed to spent the whole day together and went swimming and later to her place cooked a meal, ate and watched again some fail videos on youtube. At about 2am we decided that we call it a day and I started to leave. At the door then this conversation happened:

Her: "Do you want to stay the night?" Me: "Nah it's fine." Her: "But it'll take you a while to get home." Me: "I'm here by car. So it won't take that long." Her: "Are you sure?" Me: "Yup!" Her: "Okay, good night."

I then turned around and drove home. After arriving I realized what she really offered me. I felt really dumb.

Third Chance: 3 days later we met again within my friend group to play laser tag. She was with us and we divided us into 5 groups of 4. My friend, his girlfriend, her and I were in a team and we sticked the whole game together. While playing she always mentioned how good I am at that game and after the first round ended we got the results from the game and went on to give out our own kind of awards and titles we won during the game. I won the Gaylord (there is a profile on a gun named that way so we kind of took it from there) prize, which is shooting the most people from behind during a game. My friend took me aside and we had this convo:

He: "You know, she likes you?" Me: "Nah, I don't think so." He: "Dude! She's into you! Don't miss all the signs!" Me: "Already did it twice, so I don't think she's still into me." He: "She is, just don't fuck it up!"

After a break, we went for a second round in the same teams. We were again walking around as a union and she then this happened:

Her: "I'd like to get a shot from you from behind." Me: "It's not possible, we're on the same team!"

I honestly did not realize what she said at that moment, but I saw my friend and his girlfriend both doing a facepalm. At that moment I had no idea why they did that but we went on. After the round we did the same like after first round and called it after a third round a day and we all went home.

I drove her, my friend and his girlfriend home. After my friend and his girlfriend got out, only us were left and while driving to her place she started a convo:

Her: "It'll be boring at home." sighs Me: "You could do something fun like reading a book or playing video games." Her: "Well yeah I could, but alone it's not that much fun." Me: "True." Her: "Well... do you wanna play Mario Kart at my place?" Me: "Sure, let's hit the tracks!"

After we arrived at her place, we started to play Mario Kart and after about 3 hours, she said, she's tired and went to bed. She also brought me a pillow and a blanket to sleep on the couch. The next morning we had breakfast together and I left.

I did not realize at first what she really meant but after talking to my friend, he looked at me and was like: "DUDE!". I felt dumb. That's when I realized how dumb I was.

About a year later we went out to a party with her friends and I hooked up with a friend of her. Two days later we met and she asked me what's wrong with me. I had no clue what she meant at first. But after a little explanation I knew what she meant and yeah. I felt dumb.

I have to say in my defense, at least for the first time: When we met, she said to me that she's tired of guys missinterpreting her messages and falling in love with her.

TL;DR: A girl gave me 3 chances to hook up with her but I didn't get the very obvious signs she gave me.

I hope you all have a laugh on me. Nowadays I can laugh about it.

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