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TIFU by letting my parents set up a marriage meeting while secretly unemployed

So this happened literally today and I am still sitting with the existential dread.

Background: Got laid off from a pretty well-paying tech job about a month ago. Haven't told my parents yet — if you know, you know. South Asian household, telling your parents you lost your job isn't exactly a casual dinner conversation.

The setup: Dad casually drops this morning that he's invited someone over. A prospective girl's father. For a marriage discussion. Cool cool cool. My biodata — which I obviously hadn't updated because why would I have anticipated this specific nightmare — still lists my previous company. With the title. With the salary band. The whole thing.

TIFU: I am currently sitting across from a 50-something man who is thoroughly vetting me as a potential son-in-law. He's asking about my company. My role. How I manage my finances. My five-year plan.

And I am answering. All of it. With a smile.

I have never felt more like a con artist in a kurta.

The man deserves honesty. His daughter deserves honesty. I feel genuinely terrible. And also completely trapped in real time.

TL;DR Got laid off, didn't tell my parents who then unknowingly scheduled a marriage biodata meeting, and I just spent an hour being evaluated as a husband prospect based on a job I no longer have.

Edit: Guys, I am not afraid to tell my parents, they are pretty supportive, neither i have financial issue. This post is not a cry for help. I am just stuck in a situation, i found it sad and funny, so shared it.

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