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TIFU by going on a my first date ever with a man 22Yrs older than me

I 18f have just moved to new country to start university funny enough it was my first day of class too. I have never dated anyone before and on sunday i downloaded bumble originally looking for friends on there. I got curious and switched to the dating side and started swiping yes on guys that had good jobs and looked rich.

Obviously I know that its weird for anyone over 22 to be attracted to a 18yr old. But in my mind I thought I thought that i might as well take advantage of them too and take their money. I have been watching a lot of shera7's videos and now im starting to doubt her messages. I never had the intention to have sex or get physical with any of these guys.

I raised the age on my filters because older guys are more financially stable. I matched with a guy called H and on his profile it showed him flying a plane and that he was also an engineer and 40. Not conventionally attractive but I just caref about the money. On his bio, it said that he was a traditional guy, catholic and only dated to marry. We texted for a bit about stuff like interests, shows, what its like moving to this new country etc just basic surface level stuff. He then asked me out for a drink at a bar knowing that I don't drink.

For some stupid reason I said yes and lowered my standards. Today I met him at some cheap bar we said hi and he ordered me a coke and I think he had already had some drinks when I got there but he ordered a beer. We went upstairs and we chatted about our lives for a bit and I fake laughed at his jokes. We talked about his work, my studies, the sports he plays, religion and how he goes to church every sunday, he went on a rant about how covid was scam and the media was lying.

During this when we would laugh he would kinda touch my arm, and he also had his arm around my seat but not touching me. I was really trying hard to get him to offer stuff like he would asks what my plans are for the weeked I'd say I might go shopping im not sure, or when he would talk about tennis I said i've wanted to try and that i need to go shopping for a cute tennis outfit and shoes and blah blah blah.

After an hour I can't rememeber what the conversation was before but all of a sudden while im talking he closes his eyes, puckers his lips and starts leaning in. My life flashed before my eyes. Its like everything was in slow motion. I swerved so that it became a cheek kiss where only half of his lips landed on me. I gave him ZERO signs.

He acted like nothing happend and carried with the conversation. I was disgusted. Reality set it right there, I was just thinking to myself WTF am i doing right now. He was old, ugly and hadn't given me any money. So I was done with him. I checked my phone immediately after to make it look like I had to go soon. And then 10min later I said I have a class later and I need to go but it was night meeting you.

In the country I am, people greet and say bye by touching cheeks and making a kissing sound, I was trying to do that in a side hug kinda way but he want in for a full hug. I didn't wrap my arms around him I just stood there for a sec. And then I left and he stayed there. I speed walked home nearly running and looking behind me and blocked him.

Now I'm asking myself if im lesbian.

I just wanted to find a guy that would spend a lot of money on me and not have sex.

TL;DR: I want on my first date ever in my life with a guy 22 years older than me and he tried to kiss me and I ran home.

Edit: Can someone explain genuinely why I'm in the wrong? Before we met he knew I wanted money and we talked about our values meaning nothing physical.

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